What Is Self-Leadership (and Why It Matters in Times of Change)

by Sherry Waddingham | Self-Leadership

Change is never simple. Whether it’s a career shift, a leadership transition, or a personal life change, it can feel like the ground beneath you is moving. In these moments, it’s easy to get swept up in the noise of expectations from society, from others, even from yourself. You can get overwhelmed by the fear that nothing is happening, which just makes it feel worse.

I know — I’ve been there.

But the real key to navigating change with clarity and confidence isn’t out there. It starts from within.

That’s where self-leadership comes in.

What Is Self-Leadership?

Self-leadership is the ability to guide and motivate yourself from the inside out. It’s about:

Understanding your patterns and habits
Trusting your instincts
Making choices aligned with who you really are, not just who you think you should be

In other words, self-leadership means learning to lead yourself with clarity and compassion before trying to navigate everything else in your life. It helps keep you grounded in a world that is anything but. It becomes your internal GPSwhen external markers disappear.

Why Self-Leadership Matters During Change

Transitions are testing grounds and they can be tough. Old definitions of success start to feel out of sync, and new possibilities can feel uncertain. Without an inner compass, it’s easy to drift into self-doubt or let external voices dictate your next steps.

But when you practice self-leadership, you:

Quiet the noise → so you can hear your own voice again
Rebuild self-trust → so decisions feel grounded, not rushed or reactive
Move forward with clarity and purpose → even when the path isn’t fully clear yet

Self-leadership doesn’t remove the discomfort of change, but it transforms how you walk through it. Instead of resisting or second-guessing, you’re able to navigate with resilience and presence.

Three Simple Ways to Practice Self-Leadership

Pause before reacting
Change often triggers fear or urgency. Taking a breath before responding helps you act from choice, not impulse.
Ask yourself better questions
Instead of “What should I do?”, try “What feels true for me right now?” or “What would my future self thank me for?”
Reconnect with your strengths
In times of uncertainty, remembering what you already do well builds confidence. This is why I use tools like the Enneagram and StrengthsFinder in my coaching they shine a light on the unique resources you already carry.

The Bigger Picture

Leading yourself isn’t about perfection or control. It’s about presence. It’s about showing up for yourself with clarity, courage, and compassion especially when life is shifting.

Because here’s the truth: when you learn to lead from within, you not only navigate change more gracefully, you also open the door to new possibilities, relationships, and ways of living that are aligned with who you are becoming.

Closing thought:
Change is inevitable. I know it isn’t easy but how you move through it is a choice. Self-leadership is the skill that helps you choose well.

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Written By Sherry Waddingham

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